When M contacted me, it was because she was referred by my friend and doula, Teri of Harmony Doula. She wanted to take advantage of our partnership, and I was very excited to work with Teri again.
M was attempting a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section). However, after 4 days of prodromal labor, 20ish hours of active labor, and 3 hours of pushing, it was apparent that Baby Astin was presenting in a way that was not conducive to vaginal delivery. So around 2am on Saturday morning, the decision was made to have a repeat C-section. In the biz, this would be called a “failed” VBAC attempt, but I see no failure here! When I see a woman make decisions that she feels is best for herself and her body, using evidence based research, while hiring a team of people who support her in these decisions, all I see is TRIUMPH. Even if the outcome was not what she expected or had hoped for. M used her knowledge and instinct through out our entire day together. Even after the decision was made to move on to C-section, she used her voice to request a “family centered” C-section, and to have me present in the OR to capture the moments she would be missing. There is no failure here, and I am so proud of M for always using her voice.
Welcome to the world Astin! You’ve got a strong mama, a supportive and loving papa, and a very proud big brother, who can’t wait to get you home!